Opinions and Reviews
Asking for opinions
My advice regarding opinions is to not solicit a negative one, and not set yourself up to receive one.
I believe that the opinion you get from a person is going to depend heavily on how you lay down your case, and by the type of person you seem to be in the moment. Especially if the listener is not afraid to respond something negative.
As an example, say you start talking about a thing you did, and while doing so you show insecurity, semblances of guilt, you seem weak in the moment. The person listening to your story is going to pick up those signals and consider them when you ask them for an opinion or advice. There's a high chance you won't receive real advice, because you set yourself up, what you're doing is awaiting to receive a penance from the listener, since you're basically doing a confession to a priest. You might even get disappointed when they give you a negative opinion of you, or assess the situation in a certain way, because partly you were hoping for a positive one. Maybe you put the odds against you on purpose, to be more honest, or to make the challenge have more weight. But a lot of people are just going to roll with the signals you give them.
Negative reviews
When it comes to asking for a review of something you made, maybe an essay, to a person or an AI, you have to consider that because of the culture of reviewing, the reviewer is going to scan for flaws or things that are not accordant to their taste. This means some energy will be used simply to make you feel bad.
While becoming aware of what is lacking in what you do is certainly important, casual reviewers laying down their personal opinions on you might not be what you need in the moment. You don't need bad news constantly, sometimes you just want a batch of good news. The reviewer could give you some hints with enough tact, that help you find out later by yourself why something could be better.
I think the negative parts of reviews are artifacts that culture dragged along, they're not really productive. If a person spent even 5 minutes writing something, genuinely, all they should hear are the interesting things they were able to come up with, and things they didn't expect were there. The person can later think about what was omitted in the review, or subtle hints, or ask for a full, or negative review if they so desire.
Negative reviews might not even be based on truth. They could be heavily influenced by emotional and historical baggage, or the sheer need to have a mixed review, or to not be overly nice with the person.
I think our duty as people in general is to make each other feel comfortable, reduce traumas, so a better world can emerge. Tactful reviews are part of this.
Asking for review
I think it's important to think about this. Not only when reviewing other's work, but when asking for reviews. What I do often when I write these blog posts is ask an AI in a certain way through a template I have:
[[positive]]
Tell me what you think of this blog post.
Tell me what you liked, only the positive angles.
I can use the template when pasting the post to read a review that will please me. There's less anxiety in reading them, and they're more interesting since they're focused in finding positive or surprising things.